It's not about chocolates
It's not about flowers
It's not about dinner
It' not about words
It's not about flowers
It's not about dinner
It' not about words
It's about...
...touching
...entangling
...becoming one
...touching
...entangling
...becoming one
Have you Ever Sensed Someone Without Seeing Them...
...much less speaking with them.; and in that sense, felt a spiritual/emotional connection? I bet you have. Now, we're not talking about only arousal here. That would be pheromones, a material world experience. Although, we are not excluding arousal as part of the whole experience. No I'm talking about sensing someone you have never met before they walk into the room; or you sense them and turn around. We know from Rupert Sheldrake's Joint Attention and Sense of Being Stared At experiments, that this feeling of connecting is real.
Have you ever acted on that sense rather...(more)
...than waded through the countless words exchanged on dates, via texts, or phone calls? (more)
The problem with words is...
...that they are so easily fabricated, maybe not out of purposeful deception, but out of the other's desire to be accepted and validated by you. Don't get me wrong. Words are good for relationship and mutual lifestyle building and if that is all you want, you can stop reading right now. However, if you want more...
If you want something more evolved, deeper, more connective...
...you'll have to resort to physical intimacy. That is not to say, jump into coital sex. In fact, holding off on that may be more beneficial, since goals for achieving orgasm may also hamper the process of entanglement.
Entanglement?
Yup. The entangling of minds and psyches in the non-local conscious. Soul mates is a term used in contemporary times. The ancient Tantrics have known off this for over 3500 years and refer to it as the enmeshing of each person's Kundalini (Life source energy). They knew the value of physical intimacy without the hedonistic goals of orgasm. They also understood the lack of value of exchanging words, or getting mired in sharing material possession in the process of entangling, or "becoming one." However, I can tell you, guys, that being a 'giving" lover and helping your female partner break from the bonds of this reality, will make for a deeper experience.
Frightening?
Maybe, depending on your fear or acceptance of physical intimacy; often a reason for a period of words. However keep in mind that physical intimacy can quickly with hand-holding, kisses and caressing, before a couple "get's naked." Then. there is more exploration of Kundalini before even considering coitus, caressing, petting, stroking...a full body massage is good.
Bargaining And Manipulation
...are the hazards of word exchange and hamper entanglement. Words are of the intellect, not the soul. And if your real goal is a mutual lifestyle, remember you can still have that. Becoming "soul mates" does not exclude two people from putting together a life. It's just that two should consider seeing if they can become one, in the spiritual psychic sense before attempting putting two lives together. We live in a culture that often has this backwards and may be why many people are unhappy.
So...
Wait for that person you sense before you see, then kiss them the first chance you get!